Why is that when someone is telling you a story and you say, "I understand" they don't actually think you mean it? It is quite possibly one of the most frustrating things in the world. Same thing when someone says, "You have no idea," "You don't even know" or "You can't even imagine." Really?? Are you certain that I have no idea, or that I wouldn't know? Are you doubting the depths of my imagination? Try me, because most of the time, I do understand, I do know, I have an idea and I could most definitely imagine it.
So many people are so convinced that everything bad happens to them and only to them. They want the sympathy but are uninterested in your empathy. Why do people invite that drama into their life? It comforts me to know that other people have been where I am, that some footsteps were already created. Trust me, you are not the only one that this happened to and you won't be the last.
Always remember that it's not about what happens to you, but rather how you react to what happens to you.